NHỮNG GÌ CON CẦN KHÔNG PHẢI MỘT MÓN ĐỒ CHƠI THẬT XỊN, MỘT CUỐN SÁCH THẬT HAY, MÀ LÀ BA MẸ. BA MẸ CHÍNH LÀ CUỐN SÁCH GIÚP CON PHÁT TRIỂN TỐT NHẤT !!!
Hôm nọ, có một mẹ vào inbox cho mẹ Minnie là :
“Bé nhà em gần 18 tháng, nhưng chưa biết gì nhiều, cũng chưa nói được, không biết có sách hay đồ chơi nào giáo dục sớm cho bé mà bé tự chơi tự đọc được không ? Vì em và cả chồng đều không có thời gian dành cho bé”…
Mình thật sự rất muốn trả lời rằng :”Nếu không thể dành thời gian cho con thì tốt nhất đừng mua sách cho con, con không cần đâu”…
Nhưng cũng kiềm lại, hỏi rõ thêm về hoàn cảnh của bạn í, bởi khi chưa hiểu rõ về hoàn cảnh của nhau thì mình không phán xét…
Mình chỉ đưa ra lời khuyên từ tận đáy lòng rằng nếu có thể, ba mẹ hãy dành thời gian tương tác với con nhiều nhất có thể. Mình biết có nhiều ba mẹ bận rộn lo cơm áo gạo tiền, lo cuộc sống, hoàn cảnh không cho phép. Thì những lúc có thể bên con, mẹ đặt điện thoại xuống, bỏ bớt thời gian lướt FB mà dành cho con, ba bỏ bớt thời gian chơi game mà dành cho con. Chỉ chút ít thời gian đó cũng đủ để tương tác chơi và dạy con rồi. Một cuốn sách dù hay đến mấy mà nếu đưa bé tự đọc, cũng vô dụng nếu ba mẹ không cùng cùng đọc và tương tác với con. Một món đồ chơi dù vui đến mấy, chơi một mình cũng chán thôi.
Bé con không biết giàu sang, không cần vật chất, không biết đồ chơi đắt hay rẻ (thậm chí những đồ vật thường có trong nhà cũng thành đồ chơi của bé), bé con chỉ biết ba mẹ, ba mẹ là cả bầu trời của con.
Hồi đi học, mình có một đứa bạn khác lớp, bạn ấy trầm tính, ít nói. Có lần về nhà bạn ấy tập văn nghệ. Cả bọn mới bất ngờ vì nhà bạn ấy rất rất giàu (bình thường bạn ấy ăn mặc khá lôi thôi)… đang tập nhạc thì ba bạn ấy về, ba bạn thấy tụi mình thì nói : “bạn đến chơi sinh nhật con à, ba cho tiền đưa bạn đi ăn nè”, vừa nói ba bạn í vừa rút ra 1 cọc tờ 500k. Thật sự lúc đó đứa nào nhìn cũng lác mắt luôn, kiểu khi đó đứa nào có được 100k cũng to rồi chứ đừng nói 1 cọc 500k. Với cả nghe nói mới biết hôm đó sinh nhật bạn í… Vậy mà bạn í cầm lấy tiền rồi cất đi và cũng không trả lời ba câu nào. Kiểu cả bầu không khí im lặng luôn. Đến khi ba bạn ấy đi, bạn ấy quay lại nói với tụi mình :”năm nào cũng thế đó, quen rồi”
Mình ấn tượng và nhớ mãi luôn… mình cảm nhận rất rõ nỗi buồn, cảm giác đau lòng của bạn ấy lúc đó, dù mình chưa trải qua bao giờ.
Tiền thiếu, có thể kiếm sau. Sự nghiệp chưa có, cũng còn cả đời để gây dựng. Nhưng tuổi thơ của con chỉ có một mà thôi…
Rồi cũng sẽ có ngày con lớn, có những thú vui riêng, có bạn, có người yêu… rồi cũng sẽ đến lúc con rời xa vòng tay của mình.
6 năm (nhất là 3 năm đầu đời) quyết định tương lai con là người như thế nào. Có người lựa chọn dành thời gian cho 3 năm đầu đời của con, chăm dạy con, và thời gian sau đó cuộc sống cũng nhẹ nhàng hơn, vì con ngoan, phát triển tốt, biết đúng sai, đỡ phải lo lắng nhiều.
Có người bỏ lỡ 6 năm đầu đời của con, và thời gian sau đó con không gần gũi ba mẹ, con dễ đi sai đường, khi con lớn con hư, lại tốn hơn nhiều thời gian để dạy lại con, nhưng lúc đó con đã khó dạy rồi… có người khổ cả đời vì con cái, nhưng không nhận ra cái sai từ đầu của bản thân. Đầu tư cho giáo dục con cái luôn là đầu tư thông minh nhất !!!
Từ 0-6 tuổi, trẻ học mọi thứ qua trò chơi. Khi chơi, cảm xúc của đứa trẻ mới thực sự được thoải mái, tinh thần vui vẻ và bộ não tiếp thu mọi thứ tốt nhất.
Ba hay mẹ tương tác với con sẽ tạo nên những trải nghiệm đáng nhớ và là quá trình vun bồi tình yêu thương, cảm xúc tích cực trong trẻ. Khi được ba mẹ quan tâm, dành thời gian chơi với mình, đứa trẻ cảm thấy được an toàn. Đó là mối quan hệ tuyệt vời nhất để phát triển một nhân cách lành mạnh cho bé.
Nếu không có thời gian chơi với con, ba mẹ có yêu con hay không đứa trẻ không cảm nhận được và sẽ cô độc, buồn chán, sai lầm nhất là cho con tiếp xúc với các thiết bị công nghệ đt, ipad để con bị nghiện vì không tìm thấy niềm vui nào khác nữa.
Chơi cùng con thì mới quan sát và hiểu được tính cách của con. Hiểu được con thì mới biết cách dạy con hiệu quả theo tính cách của con, thay vì áp đặt con bằng suy nghĩ của mình. Cùng chơi với con sẽ giúp xây dựng tình yêu thương, tin cậy, gắn bó. Gia đình cùng chơi với nhau sẽ giúp bé hạnh phúc và cả ba mẹ cũng hạnh phúc.
Mong ba mẹ hiểu rằng nếu thực sự dành thời gian chơi cùng con thì dù chỉ 5 phút cũng vô cùng quý giá với con.
This is the perfect web site for anyone who wants to understand this topic. You understand a whole lot its almost hard to argue with you (not that I personally will need to…HaHa). You certainly put a brand new spin on a topic that has been written about for a long time. Wonderful stuff, just wonderful.
This page definitely has all the info I wanted about this subject and didn’t know who to ask.
It’s hard to find well-informed people on this topic, but you seem like you know what you’re talking about! Thanks
After I originally left a comment I appear to have clicked the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get four emails with the same comment. Is there a means you are able to remove me from that service? Appreciate it.
After looking into a few of the blog articles on your web site, I seriously like your technique of writing a blog. I book-marked it to my bookmark webpage list and will be checking back in the near future. Take a look at my web site as well and let me know what you think.
An outstanding share! I’ve just forwarded this onto a colleague who has been conducting a little homework on this. And he actually ordered me breakfast because I stumbled upon it for him… lol. So let me reword this…. Thanks for the meal!! But yeah, thanks for spending the time to talk about this issue here on your web page.
Nice post. I learn something new and challenging on websites I stumbleupon on a daily basis. It will always be exciting to read through content from other writers and practice something from other sites.
That is a really good tip especially to those fresh to the blogosphere. Brief but very accurate info… Thanks for sharing this one. A must read article!
I couldn’t resist commenting. Perfectly written!
This is a really good tip particularly to those fresh to the blogosphere. Short but very accurate information… Thank you for sharing this one. A must read article!
Excellent post! We will be linking to this particularly great article on our site. Keep up the great writing.
Bahis sitelerinin sunduğu deneme bonusları ile ilk kazancımı hiç para yatırmadan elde ettim!
This is a topic which is near to my heart… Thank you! Where can I find the contact details for questions?
En sevdiğim slot oyunu Wolf Gold, her spin büyük bir kazanç fırsatı sunuyor.
Casino’nun sunduğu turnuvalar ile slot oyunlarında ekstra ödüller kazanmak çok kolay.
Excellent post! We will be linking to this particularly great content on our website. Keep up the good writing.
Everything is very open with a clear explanation of the issues. It was truly informative. Your website is extremely helpful. Thank you for sharing.
Very good article! We will be linking to this particularly great post on our site. Keep up the good writing.
Futbol bahislerinde doğru stratejiyle her zaman kazançlı çıkıyorum!
I must thank you for the efforts you’ve put in writing this blog. I really hope to check out the same high-grade content by you later on as well. In fact, your creative writing abilities has inspired me to get my own site now 😉
Greetings! Very useful advice in this particular article! It is the little changes that make the biggest changes. Many thanks for sharing!
Casino’da slot oyunları oynamak inanılmaz keyifli, büyük kazançlar da cabası!
Bu casino’nun sunduğu canlı bahis seçenekleri, futbol maçlarını izlerken ekstra kazanç fırsatları yaratıyor!
Düşük bahislerle futbol maçlarına oynarken bile büyük kazançlar elde ediyorum!
Deneme bonusu sayesinde crash oyunlarında, özellikle Aviator’da, risksiz kazanç elde etmek çok kolay!
Very good info. Lucky me I found your site by chance (stumbleupon). I’ve saved as a favorite for later!
Aw, this was a really good post. Taking the time and actual effort to generate a superb article… but what can I say… I put things off a whole lot and don’t seem to get nearly anything done.
Bahis siteleri deneme bonusu ile oyuna başlamadan önce şansınızı ücretsiz deneyin!
An impressive share! I have just forwarded this onto a colleague who has been doing a little homework on this. And he actually ordered me lunch because I stumbled upon it for him… lol. So let me reword this…. Thanks for the meal!! But yeah, thanx for spending time to talk about this issue here on your website.
Bahis sitelerinde deneme bonusu kullanarak oyuna bedava başlayabilirsiniz!
I was able to find good advice from your blog posts.
An outstanding share! I have just forwarded this onto a colleague who was conducting a little homework on this. And he actually ordered me breakfast due to the fact that I found it for him… lol. So let me reword this…. Thank YOU for the meal!! But yeah, thanx for spending the time to discuss this topic here on your web site.
You’re so cool! I do not think I have read something like that before. So good to find someone with original thoughts on this subject matter. Really.. thanks for starting this up. This site is something that is required on the web, someone with a bit of originality.
May I simply say what a comfort to find someone that actually knows what they’re discussing over the internet. You definitely understand how to bring a problem to light and make it important. More people must read this and understand this side of your story. I can’t believe you are not more popular because you surely have the gift.
You need to take part in a contest for one of the best blogs on the internet. I most certainly will highly recommend this blog!
You are so cool! I do not think I have read a single thing like that before. So nice to discover another person with original thoughts on this subject matter. Seriously.. many thanks for starting this up. This site is one thing that is needed on the web, someone with a bit of originality.
I needed to thank you for this fantastic read!! I definitely enjoyed every bit of it. I have got you bookmarked to check out new stuff you post…
Casino’nun sunduğu promosyonlar sayesinde her gün slot oyunlarında daha fazla kazanıyorum.
This is a topic which is close to my heart… Take care! Where are your contact details though?
I’m very pleased to discover this website. I need to to thank you for your time for this wonderful read!! I definitely appreciated every little bit of it and I have you book-marked to see new things on your blog.
Bu casino’nun sunduğu bonuslar sayesinde slot oyunlarında daha fazla kazanıyorum.
For many years, I have actually fought uncertain blood sugar swings that left
me feeling drained pipes and tired. Yet given that integrating Sugar Defender into my routine,
I have actually discovered a significant improvement in my general energy and stability.
The dreaded mid-day thing of the past, and I appreciate that this all-natural treatment achieves these results with no unpleasant or unfavorable
reactions. honestly been a transformative discovery for me.
Aw, this was an extremely nice post. Taking a few minutes and actual effort to generate a top notch article… but what can I say… I hesitate a whole lot and never seem to get anything done.
An interesting discussion is worth comment. I do think that you need to write more about this subject, it may not be a taboo subject but typically people don’t discuss these issues. To the next! All the best!
I’m amazed, I have to admit. Rarely do I encounter a blog that’s both educative and entertaining, and let me tell you, you’ve hit the nail on the head. The issue is something that too few men and women are speaking intelligently about. Now i’m very happy that I stumbled across this during my search for something regarding this.
Hey there! Do you know if they make any plugins to
help with SEO? I’m trying to get my blog to rank for some
targeted keywords but I’m not seeing very good gains. If you know of any please share.
Thank you! You can read similar text here: Warm blankets
I’m impressed, I have to admit. Seldom do I encounter a blog that’s both equally educative and entertaining, and let me tell you, you have hit the nail on the head. The problem is something that not enough men and women are speaking intelligently about. I am very happy I found this in my hunt for something regarding this.
I absolutely love your site.. Excellent colors & theme. Did you make this website yourself? Please reply back as I’m planning to create my own website and want to learn where you got this from or what the theme is named. Many thanks!
Right here is the perfect blog for anybody who wants to understand this topic. You realize a whole lot its almost hard to argue with you (not that I actually would want to…HaHa). You certainly put a fresh spin on a topic that’s been written about for years. Excellent stuff, just excellent.
I’m amazed, I must say. Seldom do I encounter a blog that’s equally educative and amusing, and let me tell you, you have hit the nail on the head. The problem is something that too few people are speaking intelligently about. I am very happy that I found this in my search for something relating to this.
I absolutely love your site.. Excellent colors & theme. Did you develop this website yourself? Please reply back as I’m attempting to create my own personal blog and want to find out where you got this from or what the theme is named. Thank you.
I’m pretty pleased to uncover this website. I need to to thank you for your time for this wonderful read!! I definitely enjoyed every little bit of it and i also have you saved to fav to check out new information in your website.
I’m extremely pleased to find this great site. I want to to thank you for ones time for this particularly wonderful read!! I definitely really liked every little bit of it and i also have you bookmarked to see new stuff in your site.
sugar defender For
many years, I have actually battled uncertain blood sugar level swings that left
me really feeling drained pipes and inactive.
But given that incorporating Sugar Protector right into
my routine, I have actually discovered a significant enhancement in my total
power and stability. The dreaded mid-day thing of the past, and I appreciate that this all-natural treatment accomplishes
these results without any undesirable or adverse reactions.
honestly been a transformative exploration for me.
You made some good points there. I checked on the net for additional information about the issue and found most individuals will go along with your views on this site.
It’s difficult to find well-informed people in this particular subject, however, you seem like you know what you’re talking about! Thanks
Aw, this was an exceptionally good post. Spending some time and actual effort to create a very good article… but what can I say… I procrastinate a whole lot and never manage to get anything done.
Having read this I believed it was extremely enlightening. I appreciate you taking the time and effort to put this article together. I once again find myself personally spending a lot of time both reading and posting comments. But so what, it was still worthwhile!
There’s certainly a lot to learn about this issue. I love all of the points you made.
Hi, I do think this is an excellent website. I stumbledupon it 😉 I’m going to return once again since i have book-marked it. Money and freedom is the best way to change, may you be rich and continue to guide others.
You’ve made some decent points there. I looked on the internet for more info about the issue and found most people will go along with your views on this site.
I love it when individuals get together and share ideas. Great website, keep it up!
Greetings! Very helpful advice in this particular post! It is the little changes that produce the largest changes. Many thanks for sharing!
Hello, I do think your site may be having internet browser compatibility problems. When I look at your site in Safari, it looks fine however, when opening in IE, it has some overlapping issues. I simply wanted to give you a quick heads up! Aside from that, wonderful website!
Hello! I simply want to give you a big thumbs up for the great information you have here on this post. I am returning to your site for more soon.
Aw, this was an extremely good post. Finding the time and actual effort to produce a really good article… but what can I say… I hesitate a lot and don’t manage to get anything done.
Can I just say what a comfort to uncover an individual who actually knows what they are talking about over the internet. You definitely realize how to bring an issue to light and make it important. More and more people have to read this and understand this side of your story. I can’t believe you’re not more popular given that you definitely possess the gift.
When I initially commented I seem to have clicked on the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and from now on each time a comment is added I receive four emails with the same comment. There has to be an easy method you can remove me from that service? Kudos.
I couldn’t refrain from commenting. Very well written.
This is a great tip particularly to those new to the blogosphere. Simple but very precise info… Thank you for sharing this one. A must read article!
Next time I read a blog, I hope that it doesn’t disappoint me as much as this particular one. After all, Yes, it was my choice to read, however I really thought you’d have something useful to say. All I hear is a bunch of crying about something that you could possibly fix if you weren’t too busy searching for attention.
Hello! I simply want to give you a big thumbs up for your excellent info you’ve got here on this post. I will be coming back to your web site for more soon.
This is a topic that is near to my heart… Take care! Where are your contact details though?
Greetings! Very useful advice in this particular article! It is the little changes which will make the greatest changes. Thanks for sharing!
An impressive share! I have just forwarded this onto a friend who had been conducting a little homework on this. And he actually bought me breakfast simply because I stumbled upon it for him… lol. So let me reword this…. Thanks for the meal!! But yeah, thanks for spending some time to discuss this topic here on your internet site.
Right here is the right site for everyone who would like to find out about this topic. You realize so much its almost hard to argue with you (not that I really will need to…HaHa). You definitely put a new spin on a subject that has been discussed for decades. Great stuff, just great.
May I just say what a relief to find someone who truly knows what they are talking about over the internet. You certainly realize how to bring an issue to light and make it important. More people must look at this and understand this side of the story. I can’t believe you’re not more popular since you definitely possess the gift.
Very good information. Lucky me I came across your blog by chance (stumbleupon). I have book marked it for later.
I’m impressed, I have to admit. Seldom do I come across a blog that’s equally educative and engaging, and without a doubt, you’ve hit the nail on the head. The problem is something too few people are speaking intelligently about. I am very happy that I found this in my hunt for something regarding this.
Wonderful post! We will be linking to this particularly great post on our website. Keep up the good writing.
This website definitely has all of the information I wanted about this subject and didn’t know who to ask.
Greetings! Very useful advice in this particular post! It’s the little changes that make the largest changes. Many thanks for sharing!
I could not resist commenting. Very well written.
This website was… how do I say it? Relevant!! Finally I have found something which helped me. Thanks.
I need to to thank you for this very good read!! I definitely enjoyed every little bit of it. I have got you book-marked to look at new things you post…
Your style is so unique in comparison to other people I have read stuff from. Thank you for posting when you have the opportunity, Guess I will just bookmark this web site.
I’m extremely pleased to find this page. I need to to thank you for your time for this particularly wonderful read!! I definitely savored every part of it and i also have you book-marked to check out new stuff on your website.
Greetings! Very useful advice within this article! It’s the little changes that will make the biggest changes. Many thanks for sharing!
When I originally commented I appear to have clicked on the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and from now on whenever a comment is added I get 4 emails with the same comment. Perhaps there is a means you are able to remove me from that service? Cheers.
The next time I read a blog, Hopefully it won’t disappoint me just as much as this one. I mean, Yes, it was my choice to read, but I really thought you would have something useful to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about something you can fix if you weren’t too busy seeking attention.
Good post. I learn something totally new and challenging on websites I stumbleupon on a daily basis. It will always be helpful to read through content from other authors and use something from other websites.
I have to thank you for the efforts you have put in penning this site. I really hope to check out the same high-grade content by you in the future as well. In fact, your creative writing abilities has inspired me to get my very own site now 😉
Good day! I could have sworn I’ve been to this site before but after looking at a few of the posts I realized it’s new to me. Anyhow, I’m definitely happy I stumbled upon it and I’ll be book-marking it and checking back regularly.
A fascinating discussion is worth comment. I think that you ought to write more on this issue, it might not be a taboo subject but usually people do not discuss such issues. To the next! Kind regards!